Avoid Pointless Arguments by Remembering …
Our Perception is Our Reality
In the world of phenomenology, we are quite accustomed to the notion that ‘our perception is our reality’. But in our contemporary organizations, not too many people are interested in phenomenology. Or at least I don’t think so.
But there is a lot more truth to that statement than most people realize.
When it comes to disagreements or arguments that seem to stem from mere difference of opinions – we can end up wasting a lot of time on pointless conflict.
For instance, not too long ago I participated in an event that I didn’t feel was too productive. It left me frustrated with how I spent those two entire days. I kept thinking about all of the other things I could be doing. Should be doing. But then I had a conversation with a couple other attendees who felt like the conference was quite valuable. One of them was very pleased with the presentations, etc.
At the time I was frustrated enough to enter into a full blown disagreement about what a waste of time I felt it was. I know that one of the other individuals who enjoyed the conference would have gone to bat with me, if I’d given him the chance. It would have resulted in a very pointless argument.
Why? Because I know that our perception is our reality.
Our expectations were different. Our focus and our mindsets were different. Yes, I chalked it up to a misrepresented advertisement, but in the grand scheme of things, it really wasn’t worth rehashing those two days. It was over and done with. However, there is a lot of truth in that adage. My perceptions were my reality. His were his. Truth be told, neither of us were really wrong, either.
When we consider the impact of this, it can save a lot of wasted disagreements or pointless arguments. None of us need that extra stress. I think I can safely say that most of us have bigger fish to fry.