Top 10 Habits
….of Unlikable People
It’s so easy to identify them. Even if they are hard workers or fiercely loyal, there is just something about them…albeit obvious or maybe something we can’t quite put a finger on. Whatever the case, they’ve managed their way into the category of being unlikable.
According to Bradberry (2017), in a recent study conducted at UCLA, the top traits of people perceived to be likable included:
- Capability and willingness to understand others
Bradberry does a great job illustrating the top 10 descriptors of what positions some people in the category of being unlikable.
Some food for thought:
- Do you get excited about sharing information with others about yourself? I.e. when meeting someone new, are you anxious to tell them everything about you? After all, we are complex beings and sometimes some people can’t help but share, share, share, and share. The caveat though — is that it sends the message that you don’t care enough about the other person to listen and learn about them, too. Try asking the other person about themselves. And be genuinely interested in their response.
- Do you feel that sustaining a serious demeanor is most professional? As executives and leaders, we must be conscientious about how we present ourselves. But never cracking a smile sends the wrong message entirely. Lighten up. Your human.
- Are you pretty set in your ways? The older we get, the more wisdom we tend to acquire. But it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t be open to accepting others for who they are, too. It’s amazing what we can learn about other people when we take the time to listen….. and accept. Even if the other person’s lifestyle, opinions, or experiences are vastly different from our own.
- Do you keep your social media updated with every move you make? I know it’s quite popular among our younger generations, but we’re adults here. According to some studies conducted by the Pew Research Company, overzealous social media posts about trivial personal matters (repeatedly, I mean… like all day long) suggests a desperate craving for attention. Not what we want or need as executives. Certainly doesn’t look good if you’re a leader.
- Pretty proud of your accomplishments? I don’t blame you. As an executive or leader, you’ve earned your right. You are a master of your trade. But dropping subtleties isn’t necessary. This is a trait is see far, far too often in leaders. Let your knowledge and wisdom shine naturally. There’s no need to drop hints. Believe me here.
- With age comes wisdom. With leadership comes years and loads of experience and education. But it doesn’t earn us the right to use absolutes. Well, I shouldn’t say that… people still do. But it is far from attractive. There is no need to use ‘never’, ‘don’t’, ‘you need to’. We are entirely capable of conveying our message in a positive light. The good news is our chances of the response we’re looking for is far, far easier to garner.
Every single one…. every one of the 10 top habits rated here stem from a lack of emotional intelligence (EI or otherwise known as EQ). It’s scientifically proven. It’s not fluff. If it were, it wouldn’t impact people (and organizations) to the degree that it does.
Reference: Bradberry, T. (2017). 1o habits of unlikable people. Entrepreneur